I’m a little exhausted. Not in general, although the kids are off their routine this week and in need of extra love…which is FINE. Just…Mommy’s an introvert, guys. Please give me a little space every two or three hours or so.
Anyway. As a feminist, I’m exhausted by the Oscars. As a feminist, someone who is opposed to racism, a mother, and a human being in general I’m exhausted by The Onion. I’m exhausted by arguments I’ve had over using racial slang and being told that I’m too easily offended. I’m exhausted by people who still use the word “retarded.”
And you know what I’m MOST exhausted by? People who hide behind “I just don’t see why we have to be so politically correct. Just get a sense of humor.”
Hi. Welcome to Entitlement ‘n Privilege Village. Population: you.
You know what I hear when I hear that? I hear “I know this language is offensive. I know I’m demeaning a certain section of the popluation. But because I’m part of the majority group not being offended, with the privilege that goes with it, I know I’m not going to have to change how I think or act. So the rest of you can get over it.”
Let’s be honest: most people who are part of a majority are not used to being told “You can’t.” It makes us uncomfortable; it happens so rarely. We can go where we like, say what we like, without people casting aspersions on our intentions or our character because we look/act/ARE the accepted majority. When someone says “You can’t say that” they want to know why.
Because you can’t. That’s all. Because you can’t.
Do you need more of an explanation of why all that sexist nonsense at the Oscars isn’t right to say? “He has the right to say it.” Sure. And we have the right to hate it. Think that The Onion tweet was “just satire” and people need to “get a sense of humor, gosh”? That’s your right, just as it’s my right to say you are using your privilege to ignore the fact that the tweet could be written because our culture is pretty used to treating minorities like crap without any penalties at all. (See also: thinking that there’s more than one side to the Trayvon Martin case and that people “Need to get over it.” Here’s your train ticket back to your village, marked “CHECK YOUR PRIVILEGE.”) Think it’s not a big deal to say “That’s retarded”? Great. Cool. I think it’s not a big deal to call you an ignorant ass.
But maybe I just need a nap. Or a sense of humor.